Kel & Garrett - A Love Story

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Thursday, January 23, 2014

Wish Lanterns in Memory of Kel and Garrett

Sunday, January 19, 2014 was a clear day, aside from the smog, but brutally cold on the wilds of Antelope Island in Utah. That evening, just before sunset, a large group of people made a pilgramage across the water to join beachside and release Wish Lanterns into the night sky. Every person there had been personally touched by Kel and Garrett while they were alive and had chosen to be there to honor their memory and celebrate their lives.

Amongst laughter, tears, and many cameras, new memories were made and captured on film and video so that, if you were not able to be there in person, you are able to be witness to it now.

Friday, January 17, 2014

Memorial Video

For the viewing and funeral of Kel and Garrett, the families dove into their treasure chests of photos and found images that they wanted to share of the two people they love so much. Last year, this video was kept private, viewed by only those who were in attendance at the two events.

In memory of their lives, we chose to release this to the world so that you can get a look at the images that captured our memories of them.

Monday, April 22, 2013


“Whatever our souls are made of, his and mine are the same.” -Emily Bronté

Kel and Garrett are a romance story fit for a princess and her prince. Once they found one another, they were inseparable and spread love wherever they went. Their joy and excitement about the upcoming birth of their son was contagious and they looked forward to his arrival with great anticipation. However, their fairy tale ended quite unexpectedly in an auto accident on January 19, 2013. Their beautiful smiles, laughter, and loving presence will be deeply missed by the many people who loved them, raised them, and nurtured them to the adults they became.

Kelsey Elizabeth Halterman came into this world on September 26, 1991 because her mother, Jennifer Lyn Allred and her father, Franklin Daniel Halterman began a family that eventually included her brother Tom Halterman. Kelsey’s family grew with the addition of Tracy Gunnell Halterman and bonus siblings, Mark Schofield and bonus siblings, and Wendy Kipple.

Garrett Joseph James Boweter-Barker, born December 13, 1990, was deeply loved and truly cherished by his mother, Tonya (Christiansen-Boweter) Monard, his father, Ronald Craig Boweter and siblings, Cassie Boweter-Barker (Barry Beggs), and Jaromy Boweter-Barker. His world expanded with step-father, Dennis Monard and bonus sister, step-mom, Jody Pederson and bonus brothers, and his adoptive parents, Mirjam and Jay Barker and many bonus siblings.

The love story of Kelsey and Garrett included five dogs, four cats, reptiles, arachnids, and other furry kids who are too numerous to name. Their dogs, Rogue, Lyla, Akayah, Odin, and Rambo accompanied them on their journey to Happily Ever After, passing from this earth due to injuries sustained in the accident.

The emergency response team and compassionate staff of Lakeview Hospital did all that they could to save Sage Cannon Boweter, bringing him into the world perfectly healthy and whole within an hour of the accident. However, after taking a few strong breaths, Sage chose to join his parents.

With all of the bonus siblings, bonus in-laws, vast extended families, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, nieces, nephews, and chosen family members, their lives have been filled with abounding love and examples of living fully. Because we couldn’t find the words that felt adequate, we are choosing to let their words illustrate their love for one another and their son, Sage…

Kel to her mom: I finally found someone whose love is bigger than the fear I have of being loved.

Kel to Garrett: I AM heaven sent! Don’t you forget it!

Garrett to Kel: Woman. I have to tell you… there’s a cat in our neighborhood… it’s orange. I think I love her.

Kel: Board games all night with boo. One of the thousands of reasons I'll marry this kid.

Kel to Garrett: I love you. Thank you for treating me better than I ever deserved to be treated.

Garrett to Kel: Happy Birthday babe! This past year and a half with you has been the best year and a half someone could ask for. Thank you for being here for me, thank you for letting me be there for you. I'm so excited for our future with the baby, I couldn't have picked a better mother for him. You're the best Kelsey. I really appreciate you being in my life :) PTL FTF. Xoxo I love you!!!!!

Garrett to Kel: I love you babe, im glad im having a baby boy with my best friend. Im glad i work with, sleep with, and do everything with you. You are my life. Ptl, ftf. :)

Kel to Garrett: Hey butthead. I love you even when you smell like a foot :)

Garrett to Kel: I love you. I am who I am because of you. You are every reason, every hope, and every dream I've ever had, and no matter what happens to us in the future, everyday we are together is the greatest day of my life. I will always be yours.

Kel to Sage: I hope you learn eagerly, get everything you work for, love animals a lot, laugh often, never forget your dreams, ignore other’s judgments and grow strong.

Garrett to Sage: I hope you love all of your family and I hope you become like me.

To celebrate this family, a viewing will be held on Wednesday, January 23, 2013 from 6:00pm-8:00pm. The private funeral services will be Thursday, January 24, 2013 at 12:00 noon. Viewing and funeral will be held in the space where Kelsey wanted to have their wedding this summer – Mitchell Barn 1428 Sunset Drive, Kaysville, Utah. For those attending these services, please dress warmly and bring blankets to wrap around you and your loved ones. Monetary contributions, parking details, and further information can be found at

“Love of mine, someday you will die but I will be close behind. I will follow you into the dark.”

Sunday, February 10, 2013

In Gratitude

It is with deep appreciation that we say, "Thank you," to every one of you who contributed to the Kel & Garrett funeral fund. The entire cost of the funeral was paid in full through funds received by donation. We are touched beyond words by this display of global love and support.

Thank you.

Sunday, January 27, 2013

Sand Ceremony

When planning her wedding to Garrett and choosing the wording for the ceremony, Kelsey was clear she wanted something that emphasized their choices to be together, create a life, and be a family unit. The sand ceremony was chosen because, when sifting through sand, it is impossible to separate the grains and the sand is always One.

“I’m choosing the sand ceremony,” Kelsey once told her mom, “because when Garrett and I fight in the future and one of us says we’re going to leave, we will have to sit down with the sand to separate out what is his and what is mine. That will take forever and, in the process, we will find a way to make up and forgive one another.”

Family and loved ones who attended the viewing prior to the funeral on Thursday, January 24, 2013, followed through with Kelsey’s wish to symbolically unite their souls forever. Each attendee selected a scoop from the colored sands and sparkling, silver glitter then poured some into the two glass containers. This process created a symbolic representation of each of them individually.

The family of Kelsey and Garrett stood witness to their union, as Reverend Annie Benjamin shared the meaning behind the sand in the individual containers, “These grains of sand are a representation of how Kel and Garrett touched your lives and you touched theirs. We are all forever one family, united in their love.”

The room, filled to the brim with loved ones, was quiet, aside from the gentle crying as the two fathers, Dan and Ron topped off the canisters with artistically and thoughtfully poured layers of the remaining sands. Then the two mothers, Jennifer and Tonya, joined the sands of the two vessels into One, as a representation of Kel’s and Garrett’s Love that is never to be divided in life or death.

When the One vessel was filled beautifully, the grandparents of Sage retrieved heaping scoops of sand from its depths, mostly grabbing the glittering essence of sparkles on the top, and placed it in a smaller vessel. This represented Sage and his part in the family unit Kel and Garrett consciously chose to make together.

This ceremony was a ritual of binding Kel, Garrett ,and Sage together One. They will never be divided in life or in death.

Saturday, January 26, 2013